Siblings’ fights are common, squabbling and arguing is more or less a part of family life.
But perhaps that knowledge isn’t enough for you to keep your cool and stay sane.
Carry on reading and get some tips on how to keep the peace around the house.
Siblings’ fights are common (everybody experiences them) and natural It’s almost impossible to not have arguments when you live that close together as many siblings do And why some siblings fight more than others is more or less a question of personality
That its natural and a matter of personality is a small consolation though, and actually not much help when you have to deal with two or more kids fighting day in and day out
Here are some small tips to help you manage things in the long run:
Never compare your kids with each other No competing like, “who can put on their shoes first?” Yes, it’s a great tactic to get everyone out of the door in time for anything But try something elseEncourage teamwork whenever possible (perhaps it’s them against you in the next board game?) and acknowledge cooperation with a lot of praiseNurture their differences and personal strengths Give a little privacy, and especially if they are sharing a room An hour from time to time without the company of each other is calming Find time alone for each kid Encourage outside friendshipsTeach them to always, and especially when they are fighting, show respect for one another
But what do you do when you hear an argument starting? Try this:
First: Give them a chance to work out their disagreement on their own, they need to learn that
Second: Intervene Let each tell the story, no interrupting is allowed and everyone gets a turn Being heard is really important for one’s self-esteem Stay neutral at all times Find out the facts
Third: Then ask; “What can you do to solve this problem?” Make suggestions when the kids seem stuck
And remember it’s almost impossible to be fair in every situation But in the end it will even out Just like life
If nothing above works there is one more solution, AAD; Anticipate And Distract It asks more of you as a parent, always being on top of things, always within hearing, it’s kind of tiring But sometimes, and for periods, an intervention before the argument escalades is the only sane solution At least for your nerves and tortured ears
More tips? Please add them